Genderdysphoria

**Segafreak_NL** · 05-28-2012

Since most of you here don't know me personally I figured I might as well post this;
While I completely understand that everybody refers to me as a 'He' (not many many girls that go by the 'Segafreak' monniker that collect Saturn prototypes I suppose..hm?) I would appreciate if an additional 'S' could be added from now on. I've undergone the full 'procedure' over a year ago. Everything, including my ID has been changed.

I've struggled with Gender identity issues since early childhood and only found the courage to 'do something' with it five years ago.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gender_identity_disorder for more info.

Oh and I'm using the term 'Genderdysphoria' because the term 'Transsexual' is often linked to negative things and stuff from the x-rated parts of the internet.

Right, that's about it. Thanks for the understanding.

**Cyantist** · 05-28-2012

Didn't know before, but will do now!

**7Force** · 05-28-2012

I just assume everyone on the Internet is male. Especially people who play Sega games.

**ave** · 05-28-2012

Originally Posted by 7Force

I just assume everyone on the Internet is male. Especially people who play Sega games.

Hahah, exactly. There's no such thing as female users outside of Facebook.

Also @Segafreak_NL
I have a lot of respect for you for your decision. It's also very brave to announce it in this internet community, given the risk of prejudice and such. I'll make sure that the next beer I drink will be raised to you!

**Borman** · 05-28-2012

Congrats on everything! I had no idea either. If I make a mistake, feel free to correct me, although I generally just call everyone a 'he', on purpose or not, so if I do mess up, sorry! But yeah, congrats!

**Prometheus** · 05-28-2012

I can't say I know what you are going/went through, but I do commend you for being brave enough to address this out in the open. However, do be prepared to be called "he" regardless of what you type here. As 7Force brought up, most people assume everyone on the internet (especially on a gaming website) is male, and not everyone is going to see this thread and know you're female, so I wouldn't take it personally.

If being referred to as "he" bothers you that much, maybe you could add a sig or something to make it less ambiguous. Maybe mention that you like collecting SEGA stuff (or whatever you like, I dunno) and that you are "The Goddess of Planet Saturn" (since that's your location, or so you claim...), or something else so most people would know to refer to you as "she". Might prevent a lot of awkward "He's a she" corrections, but if it doesn't bother you that much, then I guess it's no big deal.

**la-li-lu-le-lo** · 05-28-2012

That's why I try not to refer to users as "he" or "she" whenever possible, because you never really know if a person is male or female on the internet. It's better just to refer to them by their name. However, if you want us to refer to you as "she" I have no problem doing that.

**DefectX11** · 05-28-2012

Cool. I've got a friend who's going through the same deal. Waiting 'till legal age to get the operation.

Have fun? I'm not entirely sure what to say

**karsten** · 05-29-2012

well then, goodbye man, welcome lady :)

very brave from you clearing this out, but just don't get upset if someone uses a He... people really think all videogames freaks must be male :D

btw did you had problems with the hormones therapy?

**Shinebi** · 05-29-2012

Never really paid much attention to this matter, but noticed you had to correct a few times before, so it was quite obvious to me at least.
Pretty sweet you have the guts (wanted to type something else here) to openly discuss this here and I hope everything turns out for you as you expect it to be.

**Segafreak_NL** · 05-29-2012

Thank you all for your open-minded reactions! It's appreciated

Originally Posted by Prometheus

Maybe mention that you like collecting SEGA stuff (or whatever you like, I dunno) and that you are "The Goddess of Planet Saturn" (since that's your location, or so you claim...), or something else so most people would know to refer to you as "she".

I wouldn't mind that title

Originally Posted by DefectX11

Cool. I've got a friend who's going through the same deal. Waiting 'till legal age to get the operation.

Have fun? I'm not entirely sure what to say

I wish I started earlier on, but still 25 is not too bad, I suppose. Wishing her all the best!

Originally Posted by karsten

well then, goodbye man, welcome lady :)

very brave from you clearing this out, but just don't get upset if someone uses a He... people really think all videogames freaks must be male :D

btw did you had problems with the hormones therapy?

Thx. No problems at all. Already using them since 2009. Never had any problems

**Cyantist** · 05-29-2012

Originally Posted by Segafreak_NL

I wouldn't mind that title

AssemblerGames's Sega queen!

**karsten** · 05-30-2012

how do you feel about your new "apparatus" if i might ask? i mean, you're certainly happy and all after achieving what you felt right for you, but do you feel you "lost" something?

**Segafreak_NL** · 05-30-2012

Sorry I'm not going to answer that here. PM me if you want.

**chaoticdaos** · 05-30-2012

Congratulations on moving forward in your life! I don't know what you've been going through, but it sounds like you made something happen and that is awesome.
I'll try and remember to call you she.

**XerdoPwerko** · 05-31-2012

Whoa. I don't know you personally, but as a fellow gamer and forum member I stand with you all the way.

I salute you, and respect you greatly.

**ASSEMbler** · 05-31-2012

Originally Posted by Segafreak_NL

Since most of you here don't know me personally I figured I might as well post this;
While I completely understand that everybody refers to me as a 'He' (not many many girls that go by the 'Segafreak' monniker that collect Saturn prototypes I suppose..hm?) I would appreciate if an additional 'S' could be added from now on. I've undergone the full 'procedure' over a year ago. Everything, including my ID has been changed.

I've struggled with Gender identity issues since early childhood and only found the courage to 'do something' with it five years ago.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gender_identity_disorder for more info.

Oh and I'm using the term 'Genderdysphoria' because the term 'Transsexual' is often linked to negative things and stuff from the x-rated parts of the internet.

Right, that's about it. Thanks for the understanding.

I already know someone who did this.

In my mother's native tongue, we have no noun for male or female. People are people and have been since ever.
Life choices are understood and even held special. For instance you (in our culture) would fulfill special spiritual functions
as you have both energies.

You have my full understanding and support on your difficult road, and may you find happiness.

You have been a member here for eight years, and I hope many more.

In the Tao te Ching, Lao Tzu wrote:

One who has a man's wings
and a woman's also
Is in himself a womb of the world
And, being a womb of the world,
Continuously, endlessly,
gives birth ....

**HEX1GON** · 06-01-2012

Having the courage to come out and say this is just showing how much strength you have. I'll always remember to add an 'S' from now on :).

**Segafreak_NL** · 06-01-2012

Originally Posted by ASSEMbler

I already know someone who did this.

In my mother's native tongue, we have no noun for male or female. People are people and have been since ever.
Life choices are understood and even held special. For instance you (in our culture) would fulfill special spiritual functions
as you have both energies.

You have my full understanding and support on your difficult road, and may you find happiness.

You have been a member here for eight years, and I hope many more.

In the Tao te Ching, Lao Tzu wrote:

One who has a man's wings
and a woman's also
Is in himself a womb of the world
And, being a womb of the world,
Continuously, endlessly,
gives birth ....

Many thanks Kevin, that is beautiful!