I have a really close friend. We've known one another for a very long time. We met through my then girlfriend as she was her room mate at University. When we met, we immediately hit it off. Same humour, same attitudes and completely on the same level.
She helped put together one of the radio stations I was involved with and she's never been shy to get her hands dirty and work hard. When she graduated from Uni she went to work with the aeronautical division of BAE systems. Last year she decided to answer an ad for a job in Seattle with Boeing and was immediately snapped up.
Today she emailed me to say she's applied for a Green Card. I am really proud of her and very happy that she has finally settled somewhere. She LOVES it in Seattle and has done very well for herself.
On the other hand I am saddened that it's not just going to be a case of calling one another up for a beer, nipping into town for a cup of coffee or heading to some rock bar for a chat and a shout. Well over a decade ago I remember her saying to me (as I came off the dance floor at a local rock club) "I wished I had the guts to dance like you..." It was probably the funniest thing I had heard and I knew what she meant. Wayne Sleep meets James Hetfield lol.
You can have amazingly powerful friendships which in reality are as close as brother & sister that you only recognise when it seems too late to make more effort. Had I known she was going to be lost to the US, I'd have definately made more time for our friendship when she lived in the UK. For a long time I suffered from agrophobia and stuck to a terribly restrictive routine. It turned my world upside down and I alienated myself and several of my friends. It's a horrible experience. She stuck by me and never questioned it. She knew my divorce floored me and when I made excuses for not coming out, she understood.
We even ended up with a joke as for 3 years I promised to go out and have a cup of tea with her. For 3 years I cancelled at the last minute.
If anyone on here suffers from agrophobia, shuts out reality, finds the outside world a harsh place or has been going through the mental mill and has little respect for themselves. Wake up! Go out, call those friends and force yourself into the world. Don't be like Sandra and me, leaving your friendship hanging on the end of an email or phone call.
Ah well, proud of her and at least I now have somewhere to crash if I visit Seattle lol. It's a bloody long way to travel for a cup of tea.
You guys are getting a wonderful woman in your midst - treat her nice! ;-)